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Some guys — probably a lot, if they were to confess their secret thoughts — fantasize about dating models. They may imagine glorious sex, their friends’ envy, and glamorous parties.

These guys (I can’t call them men, no matter how old they are) need educating. For that reason, I think that every guy should date a model.

He may find that sex with a model is no more glorious than sex with anyone else, depending on his chemistry with the woman. And he may have to face the truth that a woman beautiful enough to attract truly skilled lovers wants better sex than he provides.

His friends may envy him, but the model may resent his using her as (to paraphrase one model I’ve met) just a shiny object to show off.

As for glamorous parties: your model girlfriend may get you into one or two, but attending an event where you don’t know the people or the protocols isn’t always fun.

The bigger issue, though, is that when a guy thinks of dating models, he doesn’t always consider their interests and needs. And he doesn’t think about where he’d fit into a life full of the demands and pressures that modeling often imposes.

Dating a model will help such a guy unload his illusions and gain a more realistic perspective on women — developments that are healthy for him and his relationships.

I’m not suggesting, by the way, that any guy should pester models until they date him — or, for that matter, ignore non-models. And I’m definitely not suggesting that models should offer themselves to glamor-fooled dudes as some sort of public service. (“Jenny, go ask that dork out. He needs a good dose of reality.”)

When I was single, I dated a model or two; my wife is an ex-model; and I’ve met a few models via my work and via friends who had models among their friends. The experience helped me in the ways that I’ve described.

The sooner that guys let go of the date-a-model fantasy, the better off they and the women in their lives will be.